No More Courtroom Chaos: How the Divorce Den Blueprint Will Change the Way New Yorkers Get Divorced

By: Elizabeth Vaz, Esq.

Date: June 10, 2025

When most people think about divorce, they imagine the way it's portrayed on television; lots of courtroom drama, the ah-ha moments of catching one spouse cheating or the quick resolution t all of life's problems. Or, people think of how it went for their cousin; exorbitant legal fees, months (or even years) of emotional exhaustion and walking away feeling completely defeated. Either way- both sound terrible, right? What if we told you that there’s a smarter, calmer, and more affordable way to get divorced in New York?

Enter The Divorce Den Blueprint—a revolutionary online platform designed specifically for New York couples who want to navigate divorce on their own terms—without ever setting foot in a courtroom.

This is NOT LegalZoom. This is a step-by-step, attorney-crafted, intake-guided divorce solution that combines the ease of remote access with the reassurance of professional guidance—without the price tag or stress of full-blown litigation.

Let’s take a closer look at how the Divorce Den Blueprint works, who it’s for (and not for), and why it might be the smartest decision you make during one of life’s toughest transitions.

What Is the Divorce Den Blueprint?

The Divorce Den Blueprint is a multi-tiered, self-paced digital program designed for New York couples who are in agreement (or close to it) and want to complete their divorce without going to court.

It’s built for people who value:

• Peace over drama

• Privacy over public battles

• Affordability over financial ruin

• Support and structure—without hiring a full legal team

The program walks you through every step of an uncontested divorce, with detailed instructional videos, fillable documents, and clear guidance on how to prepare and file your paperwork properly.

This Is NOT LegalZoom; Here’s Why

You might be wondering: Why don't I just use LegalZoom?

Because there is a big difference.

LegalZoom offers generalized forms without New York-specific guidance and without an initial intake meeting to properly review your situation. There’s no real support, no intake process, and no human checking whether this process is right for you.

The Divorce Den Blueprint was created by New York divorce professionals, including an attorney, who spent years in the trenches of family law. We’ve seen what goes wrong when people try to wing it—and we’ve built this platform to make sure you don’t fall into those traps.

Unlike online form-fillers, you’ll start with completing an Assessment Form to determine if you qualify for the program. Then you receive a detailed intake process. The Assessment Form helps us understand your situation, provide resources for any requested support, and then suggest the best level for you, based on your needs. Our goal is to ensure this path is the right one for you. And if it’s not? We’ll tell you. We don’t accept everyone and we never want to waste any of your time or money.

We want this process to work—not just in theory, but in your real life.

Four Levels of Support, One Common Goal: A Peaceful Divorce

The Divorce Den Blueprint isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s structured with four levels of support, so you get the guidance that fits your unique needs, without paying for services you don’t need.

As mentioned already, before we assign you to any of those four levels, you’ll complete a confidential Assessment Form and then speak with a representative. During this call, you will go over the level of agreement between you both, on key issues.

\We will also let you know:

• If you’re a fit for the Divorce Den Blueprint

• Which support level is right for you

• What (if any) outside professionals you might need to consult first

Not every couple is eligible. This program is only for couples who are—or can soon become—in full agreement on all divorce-related issues.

What If We Aren’t Fully in Agreement Yet?

That’s okay. Many couples aren’t totally aligned at first, but they want to avoid court and work things out peacefully. That’s where our network of trusted professionals comes in.

If you need support resolving money, property, or parenting questions before you can proceed, we’ll connect you with any of the following:

• Mediator

• Collaborative professional

• Financial specialists (CDFA, CPA, etc.)

• Parenting coordinator

• Therapist

• Review attorney

• And many more...

  
  

You’ll work with them outside the Divorce Den Blueprint to resolve your outstanding issues. Once you’re in agreement, you can return to the platform and proceed with confidence, clarity, and calm.

What’s Included in the Divorce Den Blueprint?

Every version of the Blueprint includes:

• ✅ A detailed intake and eligibility screening

• ✅ Video walkthroughs for every step of the paperwork process

• ✅ Fillable New York State divorce forms

• ✅ Instructions on how to file with your local county clerk

• ✅ Bonus resources on parenting, co-parenting, financial independence, and post-divorce healing

• ✅ Access to vetted referral partners (mediation, financial, and legal support)

Each support level builds on this foundation. For example:

• Level 1 may be for fully amicable couples who just need help with paperwork and filing.

• Level 2 could offer extra guidance for those with kids or modest assets. (includes the prepared divorce application)

• Level 3 may include additional coaching or group Q&As. (includes the prepared divorce application)

• Level 4 might offer document reviews or extended support before filing. (only level where you can discuss and plan for a DRO (Domestic Relations Order) or QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order) which may be needed in order to divide retirement assets.

  
  

No matter the level, you’ll feel empowered—not confused, overwhelmed, or alone.

No Lawyers, No Legal Advice, No Court Dates

It’s important to be crystal clear: Divorce Den is not a law firm.

We don’t give legal advice, we don't represent either party, and we do not file anything for you. What we do provide is a system that allows couples to stay in the driver’s seat—while still making sure the paperwork is done right.

If at any point you want legal advice, you’re welcome to:

• Hire an outside attorney of your choosing, or

• Select one of our partnered legal professionals for flat-fee or limited-scope support

  
  

The choice is yours. We believe in self-determination. We just provide the roadmap.

Why This Matters Now More Than Ever

New York courts are backlogged. Legal fees are skyrocketing. And families are suffering needlessly because they think court is the only way.

The truth? Most divorces do not belong in court. And over 95% of the ones that come to court thinking they are going to litigate, end up settling the matter anyway. They belong at your kitchen table, or a quiet Zoom meeting, or with a well-organized step-by-step toolkit designed by people who know what they’re doing.

This is especially true if:

• You want to protect your children from court trauma- trust me; the court will NOT protect your children

• You’re working toward financial independence

• You believe in co-parenting, collaboration, and dignity

• You’ve already spent enough emotional energy on the relationship and you want to save the rest for your future

  
  

The Divorce Den Blueprint is about freedom—from courtrooms, from chaos, and from outdated models of what divorce “should” look like.

Who Should NOT Use the Divorce Den Blueprint?

This program isn’t for everyone—and that’s by design.

You are not a good fit if:

• You and your spouse do not agree (and refuse to work toward agreement)

• There is active abuse, coercion, or danger involved (unless the victim has an attorney who advises differently)

• You want someone to litigate on your behalf and prove your spouse is the "bad" person

• You’re looking for legal representation or advice. That is an outside service, with a separate price schedule and agreement.

  
  

In those cases, we strongly encourage you to speak directly with a qualified attorney or domestic violence advocate. Your safety and rights come first.

Ready to Find Out If You’re a Fit?

Here’s how to get started:

1. Visit www.DivorceDen.com to complete the free Assessment Form.

2. Within 48 hours, for any business days, we’ll review your submission and let you know if you’re eligible—and which level of support is right for you.

3. If you’re a good match, we’ll invite you to enroll in the Divorce Den Blueprint and begin your guided, self-paced process.

4. You’ll complete your paperwork at your own speed, file it with your local clerk, and move forward with your life—peacefully.

   
   

Final Thoughts

Divorce doesn’t have to be a war, nor should it be. It doesn’t have to drain your bank account, destroy your mental health, or turn your children into collateral damage.

With the Divorce Den Blueprint, you get a clear, supportive path forward—designed by legal professionals who believe there’s a better way.

If you're ready to leave the chaos behind and take control of your future, we’re here to walk with you—every step of the way.

Complete your Initial Assessment form to begin. And welcome to Divorce Den!